Monday, September 22, 2025

It All Started With a Text

On August 13, 2025, at 1:57 p.m., my phone buzzed with a message from Brooke.

She said she had been struggling with something her mom’s ex-husband had told her — that she should find out who her actual father is.

My heart jumped.

I told her I was super excited — that I figured she probably had questions, and I hopefully had some answers. After thirty years of wondering, I never expected that moment to arrive in a single line of text.

We started talking back and forth that afternoon. Messages turned into longer conversations, and pretty soon, what started as questions became connection. We both agreed to take a DNA test to find out the truth once and for all. Brooke got her test first; mine came a day later. We took them on a Wednesday night and mailed them off the next morning. Then came the waiting — checking the tracking number more times than I’d like to admit.

When the results came in, the world shifted. I finally knew — Brooke was my daughter.




Part 2: The First Visit

After all those years apart, seeing her in person was surreal. When Brooke and her family came to visit, it felt like time folded in on itself. The nerves, the excitement, the laughter — it all blended together. We talked for hours, flipping through stories of the past and snapshots of who we’d become. Christie and the kids welcomed her like she’d always been there.

After all the phone calls and planning, the weekend we’d been waiting for finally arrived. Brooke, her husband Breamon, and their kids — Jace, Oakland, and stepson Gabe — made the trip down. They came on Thursday to visit her nana, who lives about three hours from me.

Friday was the day — the day they were coming to see us. We all decided to meet at Strut’s for dinner. Christie, Meemaw and I arrived, Dawson, Aubree-Anna, Matt — all gathered to meet my thirty-year-old daughter and her family for the very first time since we found out.

When Brooke and her family arrived, it was one of those moments when time seems to slow down. There were hugs, smiles, and a few nervous laughs — that mix of joy and disbelief that this was really happening. Dinner was filled with stories, laughter, and those wonderful little moments where everyone starts to feel like they’ve known each other longer than just a few hours.

Afterward, we all went back to the cabin where Brooke and her family were staying for the weekend. To our surprise, Tyler and Angel were there too, waiting to meet Brooke and her family. It was like the universe had arranged a small reunion. We talked for hours, learning new things about each other and our families. We played games, laughter filled the cabin, and for the first time, almost all of the kids were together under one roof.

The only one missing was Emily — but even that was temporary. She was somewhere high above the country, flying from Seattle to Atlanta just so she could spend the next day with us and meet her new sister.

We stayed at the cabin until around midnight, talking, laughing, and soaking in every minute of it. It was a night none of us will ever forget — the night our family, after so many years apart, started to come together.




Saturday — The Day the Sisters Met

Saturday morning started early. We met up with Brooke and her family and set out for Atlanta to spend the day at the Georgia Aquarium. But before we could get there, we had one very special stop to make.

Emily’s flight had landed at 5:30 a.m., and by 11:00 we were on our way to pick her up. That stop would be a big moment — the first time Brooke would meet my ex-wife, Mary, and also the first time Brooke and Emily would finally meet face-to-face. Watching that moment unfold was something I’ll never forget. There were smiles, a few tears, and that kind of quiet amazement that only comes when life brings things full circle.


Once everyone was together, we made our way to the aquarium. The boys were wide-eyed from the moment we walked in — pointing at every tank, soaking in the colors, the movement, and the magic of sea life all around them. It was pure joy watching them take it all in.

Inside, Emily and Brooke stuck close, talking and laughing like they’d known each other forever. They shared stories, swapped memories, and built the kind of connection only sisters can understand. Every time I looked over and saw them together, I couldn’t help but smile — it felt like something that had been missing was finally in place.

After about four and a half hours surrounded by dolphins, whale sharks, and glowing jellyfish, we stepped out into the sunshine and walked through Centennial Park. The boys ran around, chasing each other and laughing, while the rest of us just enjoyed the moment — a simple, ordinary joy that meant so much more.

Before heading back to the cabin, we made one last stop — The Varsity. Frosted Orange milkshakes were the perfect way to end a perfect day. Then it was back to the cabin, tired but happy — the kind of tiredness that comes from a day filled with family, laughter, and memories that will last forever.




Sunday — “See You Later”

After we got back to the cabin Saturday night, the laughter continued. We told stories, played a few card games, and just enjoyed being together. Emily, running on only a few hours of sleep, decided she wasn’t ready for the day to end — she spent the night with her new sister, soaking up every minute of time they could get.

Jace wanted to go fishing at the lake, but by then it was too dark and we didn’t have any lights for the dock. I promised him I’d be back in the morning with my fishing gear so we could go first thing. His face lit up like I’d just offered him the world.

Sunday morning came, and I kept my word. I grabbed my fishing equipment and headed back to the cabin. The boys were waiting and full of excitement, ready to go. We walked down to the dock, dropped our lines in the water, and just took in the moment. From what I understood, it was their first time fishing — so I showed them how to cast a line. They picked it up quicker than I expected, laughing every time their bobbers hit the water.





We didn’t catch any fish that morning, but that didn’t matter. What we caught instead were moments — real ones. The kind that stick with you. We fished for about an hour, just talking and bonding, enjoying the quiet company of each other and the stillness of the lake.

After fishing, Breamon had the truck packed and ready. It was time for goodbyes — or more accurately, see you laters. There were hugs all around, a few tears, and a sense that something important had just begun.





As Brooke, Breamon, and the boys headed back home, Christie, Emily, and I made our way back to ours — hearts full, tired, and grateful. That weekend changed everything. It wasn’t just a visit; it was the start of a new chapter — one we’d all been unknowingly waiting for.




Sunday Afternoon — Heading Home

After Brooke and her family headed out, Sunday afternoon settled in gently. We decided to grab lunch at Jack’s before going back to the house. The weekend had been full, emotional, and unforgettable, and now it was time to start winding down.

We spent a little while at home, just talking and replaying the memories from the last few days — all the laughter, the introductions, the moments that felt like pieces of a puzzle finally fitting together. Before long, it was 4:30, and time for Emily and me to head to Hartsfield so she could catch her flight back to Seattle.

It had been the quickest 48-hour trip for her, but one that carried a lifetime’s worth of meaning.

We parked the truck and walked inside. Before she headed to her gate, we stopped at Starbucks in the atrium. We sat there with our coffee, just talking about the weekend — about Brooke, the boys, and how incredible it was to finally see everyone together. It was one of those simple father-daughter moments that said more than words could.

When it was time for her to go, we hugged, said our goodbyes, and I watched as she walked toward her gate. Then I turned and headed for the exit, heart full — knowing this was only the beginning of something beautiful for our family.



Saturday, August 16, 2025

From TSA to Schnitzel: My Washington Week with Emily


August 9–16, 2025 — Arlington, Washington
Saturday morning started before the sun—2:30 a.m. early. I woke up, got ready, and Christie, being the wonderful wife she is, was up right alongside me. By 3:45 a.m., we were at Hartsfield International Airport for my 6:30 flight. After making it through TSA, I settled in at the gate until boarding began at 5:50. At 6:21 a.m., the plane rolled down the runway, lifting off for Seattle.

 

 

 

After a 4-hour, 57-minute flight, I landed. Emily was there waiting, and our first stop was Pike Place Market—a must-visit in Seattle. Between the famous Gum Wall, the flying fish at Pike Place Fish Market, and lunch at Ben Paris, it was a perfect start. Later, we strolled through the Arlington Farmers Market and even popped into Arlington Hardware & Lumber. Arlington felt like a Hallmark movie set. Back at Emily’s, we put on Happy Gilmore 2—though we didn’t make it far before dozing off. That evening, after a Walmart run, we honored Jon Hyatt with dinner at Denny’s. Back at Emily’s, we wound down with TV before calling it a night.






Sunday

We started the morning with church at LifeWay in Arlington, held in what used to be the Olympic Theater. The sermon, titled “Jesus Problems,” hit home, with the pastor joking about the heat like a Southern Baptist preacher—a line I could relate to. Afterward, Emily, her roommate Jo, and I had lunch at the Stilly Diner, a place filled with vintage photos of downtown Arlington. I ordered a club sandwich, of course.

That afternoon, we took Benny, my granddog, for a hike along the Centennial Trail, walking from Emily’s apartment to downtown Arlington. People stopped us to pet Benny, and after two and a half hours, we headed back. Later, after a Walmart run for ingredients, Emily and I cooked chicken parmesan and stayed up until midnight just talking. A simple evening, but one of the best.

Monday

Despite wanting to sleep in, I was up at 5, Emily by 7. We eased into the day with an episode of Big Brother, then headed for Seattle. Our main stop: the Space Needle. After wandering the gift shop, we took the elevator up for breathtaking views—Mount Rainier, the skyline, even the Grey’s Anatomy hospital. The rotating glass floor on the lower deck was surreal.







Lunch was at The Bar at Chihuly Garden and Glass—wagyu sliders hit the spot. Then it was back to Pike Place for flowers, a visit to the Gum Wall, and finally, iced coffees from the original Starbucks.







Tuesday

The morning started with Starbucks—pup cup for Benny, coffee for Emily and me. We planned an easy day, exploring Arlington. I picked up a giant chocolate chip M&M cookie and dirty soda at Hammond Bread Company. At Arlington Pickers, I tried their stress-relief game: $1 to smash a glass against a wall. Oddly satisfying.
















Wednesday
We set out for Mount Baker, stopping first in Burlington for my first-ever Carl’s Jr. At Artist Point, 5,100 feet up and 55°F, snow still dotted the trail. Emily and I hiked 3.2 miles, making TikToks along the way. Two hours later, we descended, stopping at Nooksack Falls before heading back.















Later that night, I cooked schnitzel for the girls. With Emily’s help, we made schnitzel, broccoli, and corn. After dinner, we sat up swapping stories until about midnight—a perfect way to end the day.

Thursday

A slower day. We started with brunch at the Stilly Diner, then took a short trip down the road from Emily’s apartment. After doing a little research, Emily found the Outback Kangaroo Farm, where we got to feed kangaroos, emus, and alpacas. That evening, we had dinner at Nutty’s Junkyard Grill—a quirky burger joint filled with automotive memorabilia.






Friday

Rain finally found us—classic Washington weather. We drove to Deception Pass on Whidbey Island and hiked 1.5 miles on Goose Rock Trail. Even in the rain, the views were incredible. Afterward, Emily showed me





where she works on Whidbey Island Naval Station. That evening, we had hibachi in Burlington and closed the night with Kevin Hart’s Lift.




Saturday

Departure day. Bags packed, we squeezed in a last stop at Arlington Hardware and one more club sandwich at Stilly Diner. My nerves got the better of me—I could only eat half.

Before heading to the airport, we figured out how to transfer my tickets for the Washington Midsummer Renaissance Faire. Emily and I went Saturday, where she enjoyed the sights and I got to see Jacques Ze Whipper perform.

Back in Arlington, we took one last walk with Benny. With the air show flying overhead, we wandered to the airport, reminiscing about the week. Eventually, the drive south to Seattle came, and with it, goodbye. Emily hugged me tight before I headed into the terminal.



This trip was one of the best week of my life—definitely my best with Emily. The memories we made will stick with me, and I can’t wait to return, next time with Christie by my side to share it all.


Sunday, July 6, 2025

:🎓 A Trip to Remember: Emily’s Graduation in Pensacola

The time had finally come—Emily was graduating! After a three-year tour in Spain with the U.S. Navy, she was now stationed at NAS Pensacola, and we couldn’t have been prouder. We had talked about heading down for her graduation, and when the big day came close, we knew we wouldn’t miss it.

🚗 The Early Bird Gets the Brisket

We hit the road bright and early Saturday morning. And by early, I mean 4 a.m. alarm, 5 a.m. wheels rolling. With a five-hour drive ahead of us, we aimed to meet Emily by 10 a.m. — and more importantly, meet her brand new puppy, Benny Lane.

Let me just say: Benny has the energy of a toddler who drank espresso. He was adorable, full of personality, and made an instant impression (mainly on our shoes and legs).

✈️ Museum Tour & BBQ Traditions

Our first stop was the National Naval Aviation Museum — a must-see if you’re ever in Pensacola. After exploring aircraft displays, soaking up history, and possibly rescuing Benny if he was with us on the visit from chewing on a helicopter tire (don’t ask), we made our way to Sonny’s BBQ for lunch.


Sonny’s has become our Pensacola tradition, and Emily's favorite is their BBQ salad. Joining us were Mary, Emily’s grandparents, and Meemaw. Good food, good laughs, and that Southern BBQ charm — what more could you ask for?

😴 Power Naps & Pizza

After lunch, we checked into our downtown Pensacola hotel. Running on fumes, we all agreed that a nap was non-negotiable. A few hours later, refreshed (sort of), we ordered a pizza, stayed in, and called it a night.

🛩️ Take Two at the Museum

Sunday morning, we headed back to the Aviation Museum to finish what we started. This time, we were determined to eat at The Cubi Bar Café, which we almost managed the day before — missed it by just 30 minutes! But Sunday? Victory. And yes, it was worth the wait.

After lunch, we hung out at Emily’s place for a while before heading out to Bavaria Pensacola, a German restaurant Emily picked for her going-away dinner.

We were joined by her Navy friends Jo, Pink, and Eli — names we’d heard a lot about, but were meeting for the first time. They didn’t disappoint. By the end of the night, it felt like we’d known them for years. And yes, I ordered the schnitzel. (Honestly, can you even go to a German place and not order schnitzel?)

🎓 Graduation Day – Finally in Person!

Monday morning brought the moment we’d been waiting for: Graduation Day.

This was actually our first time seeing Emily graduate in person. COVID had made her high school and boot camp graduations virtual, so this was incredibly special for all of us.


The ceremony was held at Corry Station Naval Base. We waited outside the gate for Emily, Pink, and Eli to escort us on base, and about 20 minutes later, we were in. The ceremony was short, formal, and filled with pride. Watching Emily and her classmates stand in formation and receive their certificates was a true proud Dad moment.



🍳 Brunch, Goodbyes & Rainy Days

After graduation, we headed downtown for brunch at The Ruby Slipper. The food was great, the conversation even better. But eventually, it was time for goodbyes — to Emily, Pink, Eli, Mary, and the grandparents. It was bittersweet, but that’s how life works sometimes.

Emily headed back to Georgia, while we stayed one more night. Our original plan? A relaxing beach day. But Mother Nature had other plans — it rained all day long. So... what did we do? That’s right: another nap. When in doubt, sleep it out.

That evening, we ventured out to Crabs in Gulf Breeze for dinner. Rain or shine, the food didn’t disappoint. Full and content, we headed back to the hotel to pack for the trip home.

🏠 The Perfect Ending

Tuesday morning, we checked out and hit the road back to Alabama. But before we even made it home, Christie messaged Emily and asked if she wanted to grab dinner. That evening, we met up in Bremen with Emily, Dawson, Harlie, and our sweet granddaughter Lucy.


It was the perfect ending to a short but meaningful trip — filled with family, pride, laughter, and just the right amount of schnitzel.



Tuesday, June 17, 2025

Father's Day Weekend: Pneumonia, Pulled Pork, and the Braves

What a weekend.


Father’s Day 2025 didn’t exactly start the way I’d planned. On Friday, I found myself in urgent care — not how you want to kick things off. I hadn’t been feeling right, and after some tests, I was told I had pneumonia and was dehydrated. Honestly, I still don’t know how it happened. One day I felt fine, the next day I felt like I got hit by a truck. But, hey — life happens.


Even with that rough start, I wasn’t going to let it ruin the weekend. Saturday rolled around, and we headed over to Aubree-Anna and Matt’s. Matt had a Boston Butt on the smoker, and just stepping into the backyard and smelling that thing working its magic made me feel 10% better on the spot. Christie and Aubree-Anna took care of the sides, and together they made one seriously good meal. I’m talking the kind of food that makes you pause mid-bite and go, “Now this is living.”


Sunday morning, we got up and made our way to Cobb County to watch the Braves take on the Colorado Rockies. We lucked out with seats under an awning — which meant we didn’t have to bake in the June sun. It made the whole experience even better. There’s something so nostalgic and refreshing about being at a ballgame. The smell of peanuts and hot dogs, the sound of the crowd, the rhythm of the game — it never gets old. Unfortunately, the Braves didn’t pull off the win. Still not sure how that happened — I mean… it was the Rockies — but it was a great time anyway.







After the game, we headed back to grab a bite at Aubree-Anna and Matt’s, then made our way over to Matt’s parents’ house for another cookout. Nothing fancy — just some good grilling, hanging out, and soaking up the time together. The kind of evening that doesn’t need a lot of planning to be special.


I did miss having all the kids around. I get it — life is busy, people are scattered, and not every gathering is going to be perfect. But I know those days are coming, and when they do, I’ll soak them in even more.


Even with pneumonia trying to hijack the weekend, I’m thankful. Thankful for family. Thankful for good food. Thankful for baseball and shade on a hot day. And thankful for a God who gives us these sweet, simple moments in the middle of it all.


Until next year — I’ll take it.


Saturday, May 24, 2025

Our Garden: Dirt, Dreams, and (Hopefully) Vegetables

So… we did a thing.

For a while now, I’ve been talking about starting a garden—probably longer than I care to admit. I had this grand vision of growing our own food, living off the land, and maybe even wearing a straw hat like I know what I’m doing.


After a solid week of clearing space, breaking up stubborn Alabama clay, and realizing just how many muscles I forgot I had, we finally did it—we planted our very first garden!


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What We Planted


It’s small, but mighty (and I say that with hope in my heart). Right now, we’ve got:

  • Corn
  • Tomatoes
  • Jalapeños
  • Radishes
  • Cucumbers
  • Squash




Basically, if it’s crunchy or spicy, we’re trying to grow it.


The Garden

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The Waiting Game Begins

I won’t lie—when we dropped that last seed into the ground, I might’ve declared, “Let the farming begin!” Yes, like I was auditioning for Little House on the Prairie
Now it’s time to water, wait, and hope that the neighborhood critters don’t think we opened a salad bar just for them.

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Looking Ahead

Even though this garden is small, we’re already dreaming about next year. Bigger space, more veggies, and probably more ibuprofen. Gardening ain’t for the weak!
But for now, we’re thankful for this beginning. We’ve got dirt on our hands, sun on our backs, and faith in our hearts.

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> “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

— Galatians 6:9 (NIV)


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Stay tuned—next update might
include sprouts… or squirrels. Either way, it’s going to be an adventure!



Saturday, April 19, 2025

Pensacola April 2025

The hum of the tires on the asphalt marked the beginning of our adventure. Tuesday afternoon melted into evening as Christie and I made our way towards Auburn, the familiar landscape a comforting prelude to seeing our daughter, Emily. The energy around Plainsman Park was electric as we met up with Sawyer for an Auburn baseball game against UAB. The crack of the bat, the roar of the crowd – it was the perfect way to kick off our trip before settling into our Auburn hotel for the night.
Wednesday morning dawned early, a promise of soaring jets and aerial artistry. Our 6:00 AM departure aimed squarely at witnessing the famed Blue Angels practice in Pensacola. The drive was smooth until we hit Blue Angel Parkway. An hour and a half crawl later, it was clear that many shared our Wednesday morning ambition. Finally, we navigated onto NAS Pensacola and found our parking spot at The National Naval Aviation Museum. Excitement bubbled as we walked towards the airstrip, only to have it gently deflated by the news: low clouds and gusty winds had grounded the practice. A collective sigh swept through the small crowd.
Our disappointment, however, was short-lived. As we made our way back to the truck, a timely reminder popped up – lunch with Emily at Chick-Fil-A. Seeing her bright smile quickly erased any lingering frustration. After a happy reunion and a quick bite, we headed back onto base to secure our passes. Emily’s room became our temporary haven as we waited for her class to end. Soon, she was whisking us away, first to the historic Pensacola Lighthouse & Maritime Museum, and then to the soft sands of the nearby beach, a tranquil escape just a short walk from her doorstep. Our afternoon concluded with a mini-tour of NAS Pensacola, a glimpse into Emily’s world.
The aroma of the Gulf beckoned us to Gulf Breeze for dinner at Crabs. The menu was a seafood lover’s dream. I opted for the rich Crab and Shrimp Linguine Alfredo, while Christie and Emily both savored the Crab and Shrimp Tacos. Our calamari appetizer arrived, a generous portion that could have easily been a meal in itself! Stuffed and content, we returned to our haven for the night.
Thursday offered a slower start. After a leisurely morning, we met Emily for lunch again, this time at Sonny’s BBQ. It was a nostalgic treat; the Atlanta-area locations had long since closed, making this taste of familiar Southern barbecue all the more enjoyable. The afternoon found Christie and me back on the base beach. I learned a valuable lesson that day: even under cloudy skies and a brisk breeze, the Florida sun can pack a surprising punch. My resulting sunburn served as a slightly painful reminder. Despite my newfound redness, the gentle rhythm of the waves was still a soothing balm. That evening, we ventured downtown to Bavaria Pensacola, where I indulged in a hearty schnitzel, a taste of Germany in the heart of Florida.
Friday was a welcome short day for Emily. By 12:30 PM, she was free, and we headed to Captain Joey Patti’s, a charming little diner that immediately won our hearts. Christie and I always seek out these local gems, and this one certainly didn't disappoint with its authentic flavor and friendly atmosphere. We spent a relaxed afternoon at Emily’s place before heading to the cinema to experience "The Chosen: The Last Supper," a powerful and moving film. Our day concluded with a late-night sushi adventure at Rock n Roll Sushi, a vibrant spot with creative rolls and a lively ambiance.
Saturday morning took us back to Gulf Breeze and a new culinary experience at First Watch for brunch. Emily’s boyfriend had sung its praises, and we soon understood why. The fresh, flavorful dishes were a delightful start to the day. Fueled by a delicious meal, we engaged in a spirited round of mini-golf, where I proudly (and narrowly) claimed victory by a single point. A stroll around Gulf Breeze followed, leading us to Wal-Mart to gather ingredients for a homemade salad dinner. Emily was craving a home meal, and Christie expertly crafted delicious salads back at our suite. The evening culminated in watching Auburn compete in the Final Four. Although the Tigers didn't secure the win, the joy of sharing the moment with Emily, who stayed the night, made it a victory in its own right.
Sunday morning brought the familiar ritual of packing the truck. Saying goodbye to Emily always tugs at the heartstrings, but the memories of our Pensacola adventure, from the anticipation of the Blue Angels to the laughter over mini-golf and the shared meals, filled the quiet drive back to Heflin. This first trip had been a tapestry of family, food, and Florida sunshine, a reminder of the precious moments we cherish.